Grief Isn't Something You Just Get Over, It Becomes a Part of You
“You can’t truly heal from a loss until you allow yourself to really feel the loss.” - Mandy Hale
Hey there, fellow traveler on this rollercoaster of emotions we call life! Today, I want to talk about something that's touched us all at some point or another: grief. It's a tough topic, but an important one. You see, grief isn't something you simply "live through" like crossing a finish line. No, it's more like a lifelong companion, walking beside us every step of the way. Let's dive in and explore how we can learn to live with it, rather than trying to push it away.
The Myth of "Getting Over" Grief
We've all heard it before, right? "Time heals all wounds" or "You'll get over it eventually." But honestly, that's not how grief works. It's not like a cold that you can shake off with some rest and chicken soup. Grief doesn't have an expiration date or a rulebook. It's messy and unpredictable. So, let's stop pressuring ourselves to "get over" it and start accepting that grief is a natural part of loving deeply.
Riding the Emotional Waves
Picture this: some days, grief feels like a tidal wave crashing down on you, leaving you breathless and disoriented. Other days, it might feel more like a gentle breeze, still there but more manageable. And you know what? That's completely normal. Embrace the rollercoaster of emotions without judgment. It's okay to have good days and bad days – it doesn't mean you're not healing.
It's Okay to Feel the Pain
I remember trying to bury my grief deep down, pretending it didn't exist. But guess what? It doesn't work. Grief has a way of sneaking back into your life when you least expect it. So, instead of running from it, I've learned to face it head-on. It's tough, and it hurts like hell, but it's also therapeutic. Give yourself permission to feel the pain, to cry, to scream, and to mourn. It's all part of the healing process.
Finding a Hand to Hold
You know what helps? Having someone who gets it, who understands what you're going through. Surround yourself with supportive friends, family, or even join a grief support group. There's something comforting about sharing your feelings with others who've walked a similar path. Trust me, it makes the load a little lighter.
Be Your Own Best Friend
We tend to be our own harshest critics, especially when it comes to dealing with grief. But would you ever be that tough on a friend who's hurting? Probably not. So, why do it to yourself? Practice self-compassion. Tell yourself that it's okay to feel this way, that you're not alone, and that you're doing the best you can.
Embrace the Beautiful Memories
Sure, grief is painful, but it's also a testament to the love we've experienced. Hold on to those beautiful memories like precious treasures. Celebrate the impact your loved one had on your life. It's like they've left behind a little piece of themselves in your heart, and that's something truly special.
Grief is messy, complicated, and downright challenging, but it's also an essential part of the human experience. Instead of trying to "get over" it, let's learn to live with it – to honor the love we shared, the memories we hold dear, and the lessons we've learned along the way. Remember, you're not alone in this journey. Reach out to others, be kind to yourself, and cherish the beautiful connection you had with your loved one. Grief might be a lifelong companion, but it doesn't have to overshadow the joy and love we find in life.
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